I’ve been writing and creating content here on What Nicole Wore for two and a half years {WHOA}, but today I wanted to get a little personal and share my why. Friends, family, other bloggers, brands, etc. ask this question a lot and the answer is admittedly a bit long-winded. Today, I’m digging into a hot topic, that shouldn’t be hot, why representation matters, how it helped me decide to launch my blog, and how blogging’s made me more comfortable in my own skin. Plus I’m sharing an easy to recreate fall outfit featuring some seriously cute embroidered mules!
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Does Representation Really Matter? | My Childhood.
We can’t really talk diversity and representation without talking about my childhood. Growing up in a suburb of Sacramento, California, I was one of five Black kids in my entire elementary school. I’d regularly come home and ask my mom if I could bleach my hair blonde so I could look like the other girls at school. It’s a stretch to say I hated how I looked, but I definitely wasn’t comfortable in my skin or looking so different from everyone around me.
When we moved to DC, I was surrounded by more languages and ethnicities than I’d ever been around, but I still struggled a lot with wanting to fit in. Quite honestly, I was super uncomfortable with being multiracial and it made me feel like an ugly duckling. My sophomore year, I heard the guy I had a crush on make an offhand comment about how Black women were so rarely pretty and remember feeling super crushed. {These days I have to roll my eyes at how stupid the comment was. I mean – we’ve all seen Beyoncé right?}
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Still, I think that if there had been more girls and women that looked like me both in my life and covered by the media through advertising and tv shows, I may have felt at ease with my appearance much sooner. I could go on and on about how exhausting it is to feel ashamed of the way you look and why it’s the wrong mindset, but instead I’ll tell you that I did eventually learn to see beauty in my physical and personality traits. Around this time, I’d begun sharing photos of my outfits on Instagram and following style blogs.
I wish there were more women that looked like me shown by the media. #RepresentationMatters Click To TweetWhile I frequently gained outfit inspiration from the ladies I followed, I noticed that so many of them had the same body type, shared the same features, and were fair skinned. When brands I loved were doing campaigns that featured bloggers, there wasn’t someone that looked like me.
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Reading so many blogs, I knew that it wasn’t necessarily that these brands meant to exclude women of color, there just weren’t many Black bloggers in the game. And that’s when with my small jump of confidence, I decided to start a blog. I decided that I wanted to create content that women with bodies like mine, with skin like mine, with mixed features like mine could see and connect with.
I wanted to create content that women like me could connect with. #RepresentationMatters Click To TweetDo I represent every Black or mixed woman out there? Absolutely not! I’m pear-shaped, I have a mix of my dad’s Black and mom’s Japanese features, I carry my weight in my thighs and I dress however the heck I want. Not everyone will connect with everything I post on What Nicole Wore, but I cannot begin to tell you how big I smile when a brand features me and I see a woman comment about her excitement over seeing a Black blogger. In the same vein when a brand reaches out about partnering with me, I am so thrilled because it tells me that on top of thinking that I create quality content, that they understand how important representation is.
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Over the past two and a half years, I’ve learned to get tougher skin, but I’ve also learned to love the skin I’m in and not take for granted the fact that I was made to look different. My brown skin not only makes me unique in fashion blogging, it’s something that I’m able to appreciate as beautiful.
Blogging's taught me to have tougher skin. Click To TweetSo does representation matter? Hell yes it does! While it’s amazing that body positivity and inclusion have become trendy, it’s also SO important that we see these movements as more than just trends. As bloggers, content creators, and influencers we have a responsibility to our audiences to represent them and to help them understand that their unique qualities make them wonderful human beings.
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I hear you, “But Nicole, I’m a white blogger, how CAN I contribute to diversity?” Are you creating an inclusive community that’s representative of the real world? Do you share content that features women that don’t look like you, that have different body types, are different ages and races?
Wondering how to contribute to diversity in blogging? #RepresentationMatters Click To TweetBuilding that community and finding bloggers you connect with that have faces and bodies that your readers may connect with is so important. It doesn’t require being “fake” or sharing content that you don’t genuinely love, but take the time to browse your blogging groups, Twitter lists, and Pinterest group boards for content you love from women that have obvious physical differences from you.
In fashion and style blogging, bloggers so often feature the same types of items, and the struggle so often is to show how we each stand out. Sharing what makes you unique whether it be where you shop, how you accessorize, where you live, or your upbringing, continues to begin conversations about how beautiful each of our differences are and why they matter.
Let's begin conversation about how beautiful our differences are. Click To TweetDoes Representation Really Matter? | The Embellished Mules.
Onto the outfit! These embroidered black mules were calling out to me when I placed my last order from SheIn. I’ve been wanting to add a pair of mules to my shoe rack and have also been loving all the embroidered and embellished shoes that have been coming out lately so I decided pretty quickly to add these to my cart. Typically, I wear an 8.5 in shoes and the 39 fits great.
These embroidered black mules called out to me! Click To TweetDoes Representation Really Matter? | The Outfit.
This is hands down one of my favorite outfits to throw on when I don’t know what to wear in the fall. Button up shirts are a closet essential for me, but what I love about these ones from Brooks Brothers is that they don’t require ironing! If you hang it up when it comes out of the dryer, you’ll be good to go, but if not, just throw it in for 5-10 minutes.
Hands down one of my favorite 'I don't know what to wear' outfits. Click To Tweet
Amanda | The Golden Girl Diary says
A very interesting read! Thanks for sharing, love!
whatnicolewore@gmail.com says
Thanks so much for reading Amanda!
Marette Flora says
These photos are amazing. I love the colors in that mural. That’s a wonderful reason to blog.
whatnicolewore@gmail.com says
Thank you Marette!
Sydney says
Nicole this post is amazing, I feel that blogging is such a strong platform to be able to show others who might be similar to us that no one can tell you what you can and can’t wear and you can’t be who you are its 2017 be who makes you happy.
whatnicolewore@gmail.com says
So true Sydney! It’s so important to chase happiness and not fitting in!
Lauren says
Loved learning more about your life! This is so true!
Xx,
Lauren | http://www.mylifeaslaurr.com
whatnicolewore@gmail.com says
Thanks so much for reading Lauren!
Marissa says
I loved reading your story! Blogging has definitely given me tougher skin as well, as people can be so mean for no reason sometimes.
whatnicolewore@gmail.com says
Aww thank you Marissa! And yes it’s true, you definitely see the uglier side of people unfortunately
Leela says
Such an important post. Thanks for sharing!
whatnicolewore@gmail.com says
Thanks so much for reading Leela!
Ruthie says
Well, I don’t think I have met ANYONE that has been able to so perfectly articulate how I feel…. I RELATE completely!! This statement sums it up and I am so mad twitter doesn’t allow more characters lol “As bloggers, content creators, and influencers we have a responsibility to our audiences to represent them and to help them understand that their unique qualities make them wonderful human beings.” THANK you for shedding light on this topic!! PS I live in Sacramento county!! COME BACK hahahahha
whatnicolewore@gmail.com says
Ahhhh I’m so glad you could relate! It’s tough to put into words so I tried to do it the most justice I could. I will definitely be contacting you if I’m ever out in Sacramento for a visit! Xx
Annaliese says
Nicole this is such a beautiful post! I’m so glad that blogging gave you a space to feel motivated to share your adorable fashions and also your heart! I love reading your blog. 🙂 I think you make a great point that everyone can have a unique voice and perspective and not be fake, skin color aside!
xoxo A
http://www.southernbelleintraining.com
whatnicolewore@gmail.com says
Thank you so much friend! I’m so glad to have found you through blogging and am so relieved that you understood my point that we each have a unique story to tell ❤️
Crystal // Dreams, etc. says
Shared this post on Twitter. Representation in books is a hot topic in the book community right now and as I’ve followed along I’ve also thought about the blogging community. It’s so important that everyone can find people they can relate to in the media we consume, and it’s also so important that we see people who look different and have different experiences than us.
whatnicolewore@gmail.com says
It’s so true! I went to a book con back in the spring and got to talk to an author about how few characters of color there are in books. Afterwards, my friend told me she’d never thought about it until I brought it up. It’s awesome that it’s being discussed more. Thank you so much for sharing!
Shira says
AMEN! I LOVE LOVE LOVE this post. Your voice and representation are so incredibly important.
whatnicolewore@gmail.com says
Aww thank you so much Shira! ❤️❤️
Tiffany says
Such a great post!!! I think your story is so important, and I think you’re beautiful inside and out! (No offense, but your crush was obvi a loser😂)
whatnicolewore@gmail.com says
😂😂😂 hahaha you’re totally right 😜 thanks so much friend! 😘
Steph says
This is such a great post. I studied this a bit in school as I went to a liberal arts college. I love that you’re sharing this and talking about the importance of representation!
xo,
Steph
@trendyinindy || trendyinindy.com
whatnicolewore@gmail.com says
Aww thank you Steph! Didn’t realize you went to a liberal arts college — so cool! ❤️
Patricia @ Grab a Plate says
I love that “you’re you” and that you’re building and inclusive community!
whatnicolewore@gmail.com says
Thank you so much Patricia!
Katie Ann says
Nicole, I loved reading this post! You are such an inspiration and I admire you for sharing this with your following. So happy to have strong women like you in the blogging community!
xo
Katie Ann
http://www.the-holly-tree.com
whatnicolewore@gmail.com says
Aww thank you so much Katie! ❤️ glad to be apart of such a supportive and inspiring community!
Jenny says
Loved this post, girl! We all have a place in the blogging world no matter our age, gender, race, or beliefs. We’re all unique and wonderful in our own ways. Keep doing you, lady!
whatnicolewore@gmail.com says
Aww thank you so much Jenny!
Tracy says
All the amens! Love this and you!
whatnicolewore@gmail.com says
Thank you friend! Always so grateful for our friendship 😘😘
amy says
Love this post SO much!! I had a similar situation growing up. I grew up in a tiny country town and my family was the only Asian family in my town. I’m pretty certain the only other Asian family that lived remotely close to us was an hour away…and it was my Aunt. Now as I’m getting older I’m trying to embrace my Chinese culture and try to incorporate that with my blog. Thanks for sharing this and as always, love reading your posts!
xoxo,
Amy | http://www.pastelnpink.com
whatnicolewore@gmail.com says
Aw I’m so glad you could relate! I’m so glad that you’re embracing your Chinese heritage and can’t wait to see how you incorporate it into your blog 😘
Ashley DTKAustin says
Great post!! And I am loving your outfit too! So chic 🙂
whatnicolewore@gmail.com says
Aww thank you Ashley!
Oyinkan says
Oh hunny! Representation does matter! I can wait to write about Fenty beauty b/c I love how she represented us!
whatnicolewore@gmail.com says
She did such a great job with making her line so inclusive! 🙌🏽 I’m excited to check out the products
Jamaria says
Ummm YES! & more yes! So happy I came across this post because I have definitely felt the way you described many times before. So happy you chose to share your story and your transparency definitely will have people thinking! Xo
Jamaria | throughjamseyes.com
whatnicolewore@gmail.com says
Aww thank you so much for reading Jamaria! 💙💙
whatnicolewore@gmail.com says
Awww thank you so much for reading Jamaria! Can’t begin to describe how happy it makes me to see women connect with this ❤️🙌🏽
Berniedette | PetiteAndToned.com says
Girl! I am with you on this! Representation DOES matter!!! I love the blogging community and I love how many strong independent women I meet. You are amazing and you have to let the world know it!
xoxo,
Berniedette | PetiteAndToned.com
whatnicolewore@gmail.com says
Thank you so much for the words of encouragement! It’s definitely awesome how many strong business women there are in blogging – very inspiring!
Amanda Kruse says
Loved this post! Loving your shoes too!
xx,
Amanda || http://www.fortheloveofglitter.com
whatnicolewore@gmail.com says
Thanks so much for reading Amanda!
Natasha Stoneking says
YES to everything you said in this post… our readers are diverse and i love that the world of blogging has so many amazing people from different backgrounds, ethnicities, looks, etc so that we can ALL gther inspiration and make it our own!!! wonderfully said lady 😉
whatnicolewore@gmail.com says
Aww thank you so much Natasha! It can definitely be a sensitive topic to write on but an important one nonetheless!
adriana says
Pretty sure I NEED those shoes!! This post is so important and so well written – representation does matter!
whatnicolewore@gmail.com says
Aww thank you so much for reading! And yes — these shoes are the best!
whatnicolewore@gmail.com says
Aww thank you! And yes these shoes are a must!