Lately, I’ve been thinking a lot about privacy. Despite the fact that I put a lot of my life out there between my blog and social media, I’m somewhat old fashioned when it comes to keeping my cards close to the chest so to speak. I think most people that know me on a personal level would categorize my personality as more guarded; I don’t think one way is wrong but thought it might be kind of neat to talk about why I’m careful about what details I give out. As an added bonus, I’m sharing all the details on Dress & Dwell’s new pop up shop here in Louisville!
BTW, I’m hosting a fun giveaway on my Instagram story {ends around 9:15 PM eastern on April 9th} for an Urban Decay Naked palette, 2 Vice lipsticks, a NYX Cosmetics Wonderstick and NYX butter gloss!
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Yellow From the Other Side: On Privacy | Your Whole Life Doesn’t Need to Be Online
This is something I talked a little about in my personal branding post, but I’d highly recommend NOT putting your entire life out there for public consumption. Believe me when I say, I get the temptation {and have even been guilty of} posting a vague caption, hitting send on a subtweet, and even oversharing on Facebook. One of the worst things about doing these things is that you’re inevitably going to receive follow up questions. “I saw your tweet about XYZ, what happened?”
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I’ve found that I’d much rather deny myself the short satisfaction of hitting post than answer tons of questions from followers and friends about whatever messy situation I’m in.
Yellow From the Other Side: On Privacy | Your Friendships Should Be Based Upon More than Gossip
I notice this trend more with women than men, but some women have friendships completely based around talking about others and if we’re being completely 100 {which I always try to be in this space}, that’s not a solid friendship. I could go on and on about this but I’ll leave it at this quote, “what you say about others says more about you than them.” I’m not saying that you shouldn’t confide in your friends or have friends you trust to share personal information with, but rather that your friendships should go further than that surface level.
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Most of us have had a work friend that we adore, but the relationship doesn’t go much beyond talking about work or discussing coworkers. Having situational friendships or acquaintances is normal, just know that some people aren’t meant to be more than that.
Yellow From the Other Side: On Privacy | Dress and Dwell Pop Up in Louisville
Onto the outfit! I snagged this yellow floral maxi dress from the Dress & Dwell Pop Up that’s in Louisville through Derby. If you’re not familiar with D&D, they’re a boutique based in Southern Indiana that carries a wide variety of clothing {“dress”} as well as tons of fun décor offerings for your home {“dwell”}. While I end up over in New Albany every other month or so, it always seems to fall on days and times when the boutique is closed.
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I was pumped when I found out about the new pop up and had such a good time shopping. The location is adding new arrivals each week, has ton of spring pieces as well as Derby attire – including hats and fascinators, and even has some Louisville and Kentucky specific décor. I loved browsing the Lisi Lerch, Kendra Scott, and Evelyn Henson collections they had!
Yellow From the Other Side: On Privacy | How I Wore It
I’ve been loving yellow lately, which definitely is part of why this maxi dress caught my eye. The high neck is so pretty in combination with the criss cross back. And of course major bonus: the yellow floral print features a variety of colors so you have some flexibility when accessorizing!
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I stayed pretty neutral with a pair of blush suede heels I just added to my closet for spring, a gold Kendra Scott necklace, and a cognac purse that can also be worn across the body, but I love the idea of breaking this out with a utility vest and some powder blue pieces.
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Yes, girl. I consider myself to be an extroverted introvert..like I am quiet, but if I know you, my mouth won’t stop moving…
also, your title has me rolling lol
and the GIVEAWAY. Can I just be excited for all of it?! Because I am…just entered!! hopefully I did everything right! Thanks, girlfriend!
Amen girl. No one needs that constant negativity in their lives! Hope you’re feeling better! Continue to love yellow on it – you look so gorgeous in it!
Totally agree with you! Like Erinn, I consider myself to be an extroverted introvert! I won’t deny oversharing on social media – heck I have over 100K tweets! But, that was all in the past back when I was a silly teen – I am a bit more guarded now. Also love how yellow looks on you!
With my old blog, I was way more open about my life. But blogging was completely different back in 2009-2013… it’s just what people did and were interested in. With my blog now, I don’t share anything personal at all nor do I on Instagram. I just don’t want people to know personal details about my life (unless it’s something I choose to tell). Plus, my blog isn’t about me, so it doesn’t make sense for me to include details about me. I’m so not an oversharer. People didn’t realize and some don’t even realize I am a teacher and work from home (it’s just something I don’t mention).
I’m loving that bag! So cute!
THAT DRESS GIRL! I Love it.
I’m right there with you! It’s a balance between letting readers in and being authentic and keeping my life my life! Also love the yellow 🙂
Such a great post! I always tell people to set all of their social media — both personal and professional — to public for a month. That way, they let go of the delusion of privacy on social media and they are forced to see what they are actually comfortable sharing!
That dress looks great on you! Love the color with your skin and lipstick!
I totally agree about your thoughts on privacy on social media. Social Media and superficial contact has its place, but I definitely value meaningful and personal interaction! This can even happen online–we just need to be mindful of not just posting to post and make our presence actually count.
I actually struggle with this in real life and business.
My husband’s family and many of my friends have said that my level of honesty is disarming. I love sharing myself with others and I truly value everyone’s story. Half of the strangers I meet say: I don’t know why I’m telling you this… and they proceed to tell me something very personal.
I love this type of trust in relationships, but I don’t share enough of my real life struggles with my business relationships when I think I should.
I should talk about life as a step mom, which I love and the hard parts of co-parenting with the other families. I find value in learning those methods of coping from others. BUT like you mentioned, if you never talk about certain things than you don’t have to worry about any type of back lash, whip lash or consequences. I have lived by the rule, that as long as I am not silent because of fear, than it’s fine… Like faith be the driver of when to shut up… saying that to myself of course.
Thanks for the post!